My English teacher started a great project a while ago: Is there any way we (our school) could exploit social medias to stop bullying? And we are taking our first steps through this post. So I’d be very glad and grateful if you left me a comment and helped us with developing our school’s system, because all ideas below are mine.
I was 12 when Facebook got really famous, and the following year when we were 13 everyone got one. As we all know, Facebook is still in use very actively. And Facebook was a big step to network socializing after MySpace. But at the time, it was a big step for my normal people too; communication got a lot easier, some of us got new friends or met the old ones, smart criminals started to do their crime Social Media as their crime partner, and unfortunately some of us had to be their victims.
But that doesn’t give a reason to us to underestimate social networks.
Our school has used social networks in informal language education for few years now. E.g. we did presentations in English and the slides for our presentation we did in Google Docs instead of using PowerPoint and carrying a memory-stick with us when ever we had English Club. And Google Docs was a completely new place for all of us! (Personally using it daily for private sharing with friends). Then in spring we started a blog together on WordPress.com. We also have other courses like Global Education Course where the students use media as a learning tool. You can find out more about those in our school’s site: paaskytie.wordpress.com.
If social networks can be successfully used in language learning, why can’t it be in bullying?
Our school has a pretty accepting atmosphere and bullying situations are rare. Almost everybody feels comfortable. But there are still some student hanging alone and really showing that they are down and they need help. For each student there is always at least one teacher that we have a special connection with, the one we count on. But when it’s time to tell that I’m bullied, I don’t think that it is easy (specially if it has continued for a long time). You know that you have friends who are so near but still so far away and suddenly you realize “hey – I’m all alone with this problem”. And that’s when the victim might fall into a depression and bad things start happen. And I don’t want anybody to face those times.
Do we always see it? I think everybody sees it. The real question is: When do we understand it isn’t a joke? When will we get the courage to help the victim? I think teachers see it too. We are like blind chickens in front of the eagles during the lessons. If you can catch us while sneakily cheating in an exam (something that we of course don’t do..), why can’t you catch the students bullying? Teachers can and should say “Hey -stop it. What you’re doing is stupid” during the situation, but it is not as effective as if a student says so in the corridors.
But there is one big problem; no one ever does it. That’s why I’ve thought that supporting the victim by being a buddy or a friend, would be more effective solution. If one person tries to get the victim to their own group of friends, the rest of the group can’t say anything, they’ll accept it. Soon they’ll all realize that they have one more good friend!
Sometimes when the person you’re trying to help has been ignored for a long time, it is really difficult to even get an eye contact. And getting a “hi” back can get frustrating. So I think we can speed up that phase by social medias help! Dadadadaaa! The first “hi, how are you?” could start on Facebook, or Twitter. Then you wanted or not, you will have that eye contact at school too. ;)
As I mentioned the helper has to be a reliable and conscientious student who is really ready to help. And does it from his/her heart.
And that’s another reason why our teachers are eagles and not chickens like we. They simply have to pick students for an “action group”. After they’re picked, the teacher has to tell them what is the game called. And that’s when it can start. There is also couple things that are important in this project if we want to be successful: the activity has to stay as a secret between the stakeholders and the action group, and things would work better if the group is small. Another important thing is that the group has to give the stakeholders a monthly report about the progressing. That would help our school with developing this activity for next years.
Thank you very much for taking your time to read our ideas. New innovative ideas related to bullying left in the comments are all welcome and appreciated.
I have’ve had the pleasure of having this opportunity to bring up my ideas that might develop a place that is important for every student. We spent more than half of our day doing school-related things. That means that if somebody doesn’t feel comfortable at school, how can he feel ok at home? School and the social life we have there exists and effects in every detail of our life. So I cannot wait until we step into the implementation process!